“Now Lot, who was moving about with Abram, also had flocks and herds and tents.  6  But the land could not support them while they stayed together, for their possessions were so great that they were not able to stay together.  7  And quarreling arose between Abram’s herders and Lot’s. The Canaanites and Perizzites were also living in the land at that time. 8  So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for

we are close relatives.  9  Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.” Genesis 13:5-9

Two important questions in life:

1. Where are you going?

2. Whose going with you?

A. Some of the problems you face are a result of the people we embrace.

“Bad company, corrupts good character” 1 Corinthians 15:33

B. The call of God ON you will send some people IN your life and some people OUT.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.  2  We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith.” Hebrews 12:1-2

C. You must know the difference between COMPANIONSHIP and PARTNERSHIP.

“ Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had not been able to bear children for him. But she had an Egyptian servant named Hagar.  2  So Sarai said to Abram, “The Lord has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.” And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal.  3  So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian servant and gave her to Abram as a wife. (This happened ten years after Abram had settled in the land of Canaan.)

4  So Abram had sexual relations with Hagar, and she became pregnant. But when Hagar knew she was pregnant, she began to treat her mistress, Sarai, with contempt.  5  Then Sarai said to Abram, “This is all your fault! I put my servant into your arms, but now that she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. The Lord will show who’s wrong—you or me!”” Genesis 16:1-5

D. One of the chief skills to learn in life is how to be ALONE.

When a relationship is over:

1. Take the high road.

“So Abram said to Lot, ‘Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me’”. Gen. 13:8a

2. Don’t run away from tough conversations and do it sooner than later.

“is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company” Gen. 13:9a

• Avoidance doesn’t make the problem go away.
• Bad news doesn’t get better over time.
• Don’t be unclear in your communication.

3. Decide what you really want.

“If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right. If you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.” Vs 9b

4. Expect to hear God’s voice again once you make a decision and reclaim your destiny.

“The Lord said to Abram AFTER Lot had parted with him, ‘Look around from where you are… all the land you see I will give you’”. Gen 13:14-15